Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Get It Straight

A woman says, "My best friend is sleeping with my husband."
I say, "If she's sleeping with your husband, then she's not your best friend.


Discuss.

13 comments:

David Cranmer said...

Unless it's Roman society, then it may be possible.

But today. US/Canada. Nope, she is not your friend.

messymimi said...

Neither is he.

Leah J. Utas said...

Good point, David.

True, Messymimi, but he isn't worth mentioning.

Virginia Lee said...

She not only isn't your friend, she's not even a friend to herself.

I've a friend who is married to a much older man, whose previous marriage she helped end. She's gorgeous and funny and dear, but I'd be lying if I said her choices didn't bother me somewhat. Not in the she's so sinful sense, but in the 'you realize you're very possibly setting yourself up for a fall' sense. If a man cheats with a woman, it seems logical that he will cheat with another one in the future.

And yes, the same applies to women.

I find the whole topic sad. If one is married, respect it. If the marriage is over, end it. In the meantime, keep your pants zipped and legs closed. Dang it!

the Bag Lady said...

Not a friend at all.
And I agree with VL - I have seen that happen many times - if a man will leave his wife for you, he will eventually leave you for someone else. Really.

Ron Scheer said...

What brought this up?

Leah J. Utas said...

VL, once a cheater always a cheater. Or always the possibility of it anyway.

dfBag Lady, I've often wondered how that could not be in the mind of the woman he cheated with?

Ron, I ran across this again about a week ago. I can't recall where, but I remember talking back to the TV or radio or wherever. The idea that a woman would still call the other woman "friend" galled me. I know it underscores the betrayal, but it irked me and likely always will.

Reb said...

I suppose it takes awhile to start talking in the past tense "she WAS my best-friend", but, by then you are also saying "she slept with my EX-husband".

Tabor said...

Of course, this assumes that she is cheating. Who knows the ways of relations. It is a little weird...but perhaps they can all be friends when this happens. I, for one, cannot be the judge.

Leah J. Utas said...

You're probably right, Reb. It takes awhile for past tense to kick in.

Tabor, I saw something on a TV show about 15 years ago. ("The Reporters" maybe) where this happened. The wife didn't speak to the friend for two years, but missed her so much she went to see here and they talked for hours. It was interesting--and heartening-- to note the friendship meant more than the marriage.

Redbush said...

Unless he's a polygamist! She probably never was really a friend!

Leah J. Utas said...

That's my take, too, Redbush.

CherylK said...

Nope...not a best friend at all. Not any kind of friend.