Monday, August 18, 2014

Gratitude Monday-- Embrace Your Mess Edition

Embrace your mess.
This is my philosophy and has been for many, many years. I gave voice to it around 2006 or so, but I believed it and used it for several years before then.

It calls for a change in attitude and being able to change one's attitude is something for which to be grateful. It speaks of a fluidity of mind, and if one's mind cannot flow, then one gets stuck.
Stuck does not serve anyone especially the stuckee.

The mess can refer to anything, but in my case it refers to the things society expects of a person that I am simply unwilling and/or unable to do. In most cases I plain don't want to.
It also has a literal interpretation for me.
I am a messy eater. It's not too bad in the great scope of the world, but it's noticeable. I have tried every way to not spill, to ensure it all gets to my mouth, and to ensure it stays on the plate until then.

It ain't a-gonna happen.

I remember my mother commenting from time to time, "You're wearing your dinner."

Yup. I am.

It used to embarrass me. Not to the point where I wouldn't eat in public, but I was acutely aware that I was making a mess.  Further, I like eating messy foods so my choices often enhanced the experience.

Why fight it?
This came to me one day and for the life of me I couldn't come up with a good reason to continue battling and repeatedly losing.
Instead, I chose to embrace it.
I am a messy eater.
I can't say as I am proud of it, but I am in no way embarrassed about it.
It's me. I do my best and that's as good as it is going to get.

A few years back as I ate a bakery confection a new acquaintance pointed out I had icing around my mouth.
I looked him straight in the eye while brandishing the remainder of the confection and said, "Yeah, and it's just going to get worse."

That's what I mean when I say embrace it. I am grateful I have gotten to this point.


solarity said...

I own a great many beige clothes so that the coffee stains won't show up much. :)

Mary Anne in Kentucky

Leah J. Utas said...

Excellent camo plan, Mary Anne.

messymimi said...

And i will never be one of those born organized people, like Grandpa. To an extent, i can become learned organized in the areas i need to, but i am not that at heart and thus the name.

Leah J. Utas said...

As long as you accept what you are, you are fine.

Crabby McSlacker said...

I'm trying to embrace the fact that I am really slow and dawdly about virtually everything in my life. Well, except for eating. I'm pretty damn quick and efficient at that.

Oddly enough, my wife, who is much neater than me in every other way, is the one who ends up wearing her meals, but I find it pretty darn adorable.

Leah J. Utas said...

That's wonderful,Crabby. Glad you find it adorable. Be as slow and dawdly as you need.

Tabor said...

I must embrace the fact that I sometimes talk before I think...I am working on it.

Cindy said...

I have a friend who always ends up with a stain around her lips from whatever sauce she eats just like a little kid. I think it is adorable! She doesn't think it is so cute.
I always stain down my front. I now have a collection of patterned outfits that hide all mistakes.

Leah J. Utas said...

Tabor, make it yours. You don't have to change.

Cindy, I have a few stained shirtfronts myself.