Tuesday, May 6, 2014

In Defence of Nothing

When you feel as though you  haven't moved be it mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically it is frustrating.
We, or many of us, feel we should be growing , changing, doing, evolving, if you will. When we don't it can seem like  stagnation, failure.


We're taking a break. Constant inner change requires rest periods same as physical exercise. No one spends every minute of every waking hour in sustained physical activity and neither should we spend all our time stretching our minds or souls or emotions.
Stretching causes breaks. To stave those off we must take breaks.
That said, if the break goes on too long for your individual taste, then yes,  it may be stagnation. No one wants that.
Get moving, reading, meditating, praying, or learning one new thing.

But how do you tell?
By listening to yourself and no one else.
Our friends and family know exactly what is wrong with us and how to fix it, They have all the answers. Just ask them, they'll tell you.
But as long as you are looking outside you will ignore looking inside and inside is the only place where your real answer is found.

So take the break. Enjoy it. Plenty is going on when you feel like there's nothing happening. All you've learned, done, experienced, felt, or heard is being assimilated. Just like the individual flavours in a recipe need time to rest and gather, so do you and your experiences.

Let it happen.
Forcing it will only increase your frustration.
Relax, and listen to yourself.


Ron Scheer said...

Well stated. It's also possible that continued growth is not sustainable. The continued measure of it may be less life-affirming than the need to achieve less and accept that loss and letting go are also a part of a full life.

Leah J. Utas said...

Thanks, Ron. You make a good point.

Tabor said...

Perfect advice. I know this, but you put it so well. Thank you!

Leah J. Utas said...

Thank you, Tabor.

messymimi said...

Yes. Every time you make an advance, you have to stop and solidify it. How long is up to you.

solarity said...

Are you saying that life is a yeast bread, not a quick bread? ;)

Mary Anne in Kentucky

Leah J. Utas said...

That's right, Messymimi. One must go at one's own pace.

Mary Anne, I was thinking stew that's better the next day, but I like your idea. Definitely a yeast bread.

Hilary said...

Beautifully said, Leah.

solarity said...

Hm, yes, stew has more ingredients, and it just keeps on changing with time.

Mary Anne in Kentucky

Leah J. Utas said...

Thanks, Hilary.
Mary Anne, both ideas serve.

Rosaria Williams said...

Now, that's wisdom!

joeh said...

I listen, but sometimes I bore myself to death.

Great recommendation Tabor.

Congrats on POTW!

Jinksy said...

A perfect way of describing 'living in the now'. :-)

Leah J. Utas said...