Love warriors work from a base of love. This love has to come from within to be effective and that calls for a solid foundation of self-love.
“More than anything it is important to love yourself,” said my guides Merope and Geon together. This does not mean putting your selfish needs first, it means acknowledging your own worthiness.
“But when this love is to the exclusion of all else, when self-love dominates and becomes a function of an overweening ego, then it is a problem because it leaves no room, no room for love,” said Geon.
Feeling love for yourself may be difficult, but it can be done. You just need to find it inside and acknowledge it. The following exercises will get you started.
The first step is simple. All you need to do is relax. Spend a few quiet moments by yourself and concentrate on something soothing. Try looking at your favorite photo, or get lost in some music, or simply close your eyes and think about something that makes you calm.
For example, let’s say your soothing object is the color blue. You can look at a blue-colored object or just close your eyes and bring something blue to mind like the ocean or the sky. Let the sight infuse your mind. Shut out everything else. Feel it work its soothing magic on your body.
You will find that once you are relaxed your breathing naturally deepens and becomes more even. You can also consciously slow down and deepen your breathing to become calm. Try it by counting slowly from one to five as you breathe in, then count again as you as you breathe out. Do this for a few cycles and experience the difference.
Now that you have taken a few moments for yourself and have become calmer, you are ready to move on to feeling love.
If you’d like to be even more tranquil try this exercise. Relax you body step by step. Concentrate on each individual part and tell that part, say it’s your toes, to relax. Move on through your whole body. Once you’re physically relaxed home in on your mind and tell it to relax and let go.
And take your time doing it.
Once you are calm and relaxed focus your awareness on someone or something that you love. It could even be your favorite flavor of ice cream. Let the feeling wash through you, inside and out. Do this until your focus is completely on the person or thing and you are very comfortable with it. Next, refocus your awareness from the object to the feeling associated with it.
Take this awareness of the feeling step-by-step through your body, much like you did for the relaxation. See, feel, or imagine the love as any comforting sensation that comes to you. Maybe it is light, or a thrilling sound, or it is a feeling of warmth or softness. Just let it come to you.
Don’t judge the feeling or try to change it. Let yourself enjoy it fully and completely. Allow it to flow through you. Feel yourself flooded with love. Hug yourself. If you have difficulty with this, skip it. You can come back to it later.
Do it for as long as you need and as often as you like.
“This is alchemy. Love leads to alchemy of the soul. Change your soul and see the world transform and open to a new culture of love and hope. Let the world be love,” said my guide Moondrop.
Please note the name “Moondrop” is a simplification. He’s a Master Teacher on the spirit side and this is an interpretation of the translation of his name in Sanskrit.
“And not a dreadfully good one either,” he said. “More like Light of the Reflected Source of All.”
We agreed Moondrop would do.