Beautiful Intelligent Talented Confident Happy

Are you a bitch?
Why not?

Words that hurt should be turned around and put to work. Words should be our minions, not our masters.
Take the one above.
This term for a female canine grew into an insult over the years.
Its use marginalized women and convinced us we were powerless.
Fortunately, these people and these disagreed.

Back in the mid to late 90s the reporting staff at the Mountaineer were women, and we lamented on occasion that not everyone is happy when the reporter shows up.
“Hey, you that bitch from the Mountaineer?”
I don’t know if any of us were truly greeted that way, but we got the tone. So rather than be cowed we decided to put it to good use.

The agriculture, sports, and summer student added it to their titles, and so did I. We became AgBitch, SportsBitch, SummerBitch, and me, being the senior reporter, took the esteemed title of SeniorBitch.

It was wonderful. The word didn’t offend us; it made us strong and powerful and I think it even helped us do our jobs. I came up with what the letters stood for: Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Confident, Happy.
It made us even stronger. We were the reigning bitches.

Even if a woman doesn’t think of herself as beautiful or intelligent, hearing about it heals that belief.
Soon you are because it’s made you confident.
When confidence shines through you believe in yourself and you honor your beauty both inside and out. This makes you happy.
Since we were already making a living as a writers the talent aspect of BITCH was taken care of and it was constantly being reinforced. We’d greet ourselves with it.
“Good morning, SportsBitch,” or “Hey, SeniorBitch” or “Is AgBitch around? There’s a message for her.”

We’ve gone our separate ways now, but will occasionally greet one another at lunch or in email with Bitch attached to the new title, like Authorbitch.

It’s a good reminder and I think more women should adopt it. Own the word and own yourself, I say.
Use it and be proud knowing that the bitch in me honors the bitch in you.

Rewards

When you start choosing the loving way it starts choosing you, too. Your kindness could be returned in any way-–big or small--at any time. It may not even seem related. When you establish a pattern of treating people kindly balance comes with it.


Here’s an example. Back when I was reporting I covered Provincial Court for The Mountaineer. One morning the parking lot at the courthouse was full so I parked on the street in a two-hour parking zone. Normally there is at least one recess during the morning session so I wasn’t concerned. I’d be able to slip out and move my car.

However, that morning the session went smoothly with no need for a break. When lunchtime came I walked out into the bright noonday sun to a find a parking ticket on my windshield and a $5 bill lying in the snow beside the driver’s side front tire.

The money was exactly enough to pay the fine.

Call it coincidence if you like. Write it off as just one of those things that happens if it makes you sleep better at night.

I say it’s the Universe at work and I’m grateful.

Taking Time

Take time for yourself and your thoughts and you’ll find out who you are.

Love of self leads to self-knowing. Many of us now are too busy to spend the time to do this.
“So busy filling their time with things. Activities, filling every moment so they don’t have to think.”
“And what does that do? What does your full life do for you? Where is your time to see how you have grown? What are the changes inside of you or are there even any? Have you taken the time to be you?”
Moondrop said this is about “becoming who you are and awakening and acknowledging your role in the greater life of human society.”
“Empowerment and awareness, it is the time. But for that there must be faith, real faith based on love, or there is no real good or improvement to be made within oneself.”
Inner calmness will give love warriors the kind of basis needed to be strong and ready.
“Open to love. It is all that is,” the Guides said together.
“Love is the way. Faith. Believe in what you feel. Feel love and have faith. Faith will grow and so will your love.”
The world is changing. We’ve got to be ready to meet these changes with love, steadfastness, calmness, and thinking of others. We’ve got to be love warriors.

Regrets? Not So Many

Sure, I’ve had a few, but not so many and here's why.

Twenty years ago this month I was on a five week Contiki Tour of Europe. During the overnight crossing from Italy to Greece a fellow who became a life-long friend and I were talking in a quiet, secluded spot on the ship. It was after 1 a.m. and we’d been drinking.
I held my glass of Metaxa loosely in my hand over the railing as we gazed out into the warm Mediterranean night. I remember the dark water sloshing underneath us. I remember there was no one else around and I remember that Russell had just asked me about having any regrets. I’d just opened my mouth to answer when my trip roomie interrupted us.
She had quite a crush on him, despite his boyfriend being on the tour, and we knew the moment was lost.

I regret not ever answering Russell’s question. But that’s about the only regret I’ve had in 20 years. I decide right there, as my drink came dangerously close to spilling into the Drink, that I was going to live a life of as few regrets as possible.

I’ve done my best at it. I think there’ll always be something to look back over wistfully, perhaps sorrowfully. What if I’d…?

A few weeks later we were in Munich at the largest beer hall in the world. Pat Cash had just won Wimbledon and the 39 Aussies on the tour insisted we celebrate.
Some of us were nearly kicked out of said beer hall for making too much noise. I almost regret not getting the boot. It would have been a better story.
Anyway, I decided I absolutely had to know how my favourite soccer player, Rudi Voeller, and the team he played for, Werder Bremen, had done.
So fueled by two litres of beer and an earnest desire to not have any regrets I sat at a friendly table and asked.

The trip wound down in Amsterdam. We had a night in the Red Light district at a live sex show. I missed part of it (something about smoke rings) because I went downstairs to use the washroom and got into a conversation with Leslie, a male stripper from Brazil. He told me life was dance and asked me out.
In a small way I regret not going as it would have added greatly to my life experience. In a big way I do not regret it as it might have led to bigger, more exciting regrets.

Since then I’ve followed my dreams. I’ve written some manuscripts and even submitted them. I’ve learned hypnosis, done more traveling, and I’ve followed a new age path.

It’s what’s right for me. If I don’t do that, then I’ll regret it.

Balance Is The Key

Being tuned to and aware of your love is important. We must be able to feel enough love to be able to care for all the mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical wounds coming to us during the changes.

“Big psychic wounds now, all hate and harm, separation of God in the physical must be changed,” said the guides.

“Balance,” all three of my guides insisted. “Balance is your key.” And part of that balance comes from gaining control over your emotions. Not denying them, just controlling them so they get expressed properly.

This is not to say you can’t be angry. Of course you can. Meditation will help you control your emotions instead of them controlling you. Put simply, you can temper your temper.

This calmness and ability to think will enable you to act in love, not anger. Humans have passion. We need it, but it must not control our lives. We must learn to keep it in balance. When passion is balanced it lets us get to the proper heart of matters instead of wrapping ourselves in anger or other strong emotions that cloud the real issue.

There is only love, the guides pointed out. The rest is illusion, mere touch points of agreement in our physical existence.

Calmness and balance are important parts of being a love warrior. You need them so you can know that you love yourself. Love of self brings with it the seed of faith. A seed is all you need. Acknowledge it. Feel it. Let it grow. Love of self gives you the strength to put your feelings out, and to dare to fail.

As you grow into a love warrior you’ll find it easier to see beyond the negative aspects of a situation. You’ll be able to keep arguments focused on ideas instead of having them devolve into personal attacks. Your reactions will be based on a true love of self. That will bring the calmness, strength, and love necessary to transmute a bad situation to something better.
“What that means,” explained my guide Merope, “is face the events of life with love.”

Alchemy of the Soul

Love warriors work from a base of love. This love has to come from within to be effective and that calls for a solid foundation of self-love.

“More than anything it is important to love yourself,” said my guides Merope and Geon together. This does not mean putting your selfish needs first, it means acknowledging your own worthiness.
“But when this love is to the exclusion of all else, when self-love dominates and becomes a function of an overweening ego, then it is a problem because it leaves no room, no room for love,” said Geon.

Feeling love for yourself may be difficult, but it can be done. You just need to find it inside and acknowledge it. The following exercises will get you started.

The first step is simple. All you need to do is relax. Spend a few quiet moments by yourself and concentrate on something soothing. Try looking at your favorite photo, or get lost in some music, or simply close your eyes and think about something that makes you calm.
For example, let’s say your soothing object is the color blue. You can look at a blue-colored object or just close your eyes and bring something blue to mind like the ocean or the sky. Let the sight infuse your mind. Shut out everything else. Feel it work its soothing magic on your body.
You will find that once you are relaxed your breathing naturally deepens and becomes more even. You can also consciously slow down and deepen your breathing to become calm. Try it by counting slowly from one to five as you breathe in, then count again as you as you breathe out. Do this for a few cycles and experience the difference.
Now that you have taken a few moments for yourself and have become calmer, you are ready to move on to feeling love.

If you’d like to be even more tranquil try this exercise. Relax you body step by step. Concentrate on each individual part and tell that part, say it’s your toes, to relax. Move on through your whole body. Once you’re physically relaxed home in on your mind and tell it to relax and let go.

And take your time doing it.

Once you are calm and relaxed focus your awareness on someone or something that you love. It could even be your favorite flavor of ice cream. Let the feeling wash through you, inside and out. Do this until your focus is completely on the person or thing and you are very comfortable with it. Next, refocus your awareness from the object to the feeling associated with it.
Take this awareness of the feeling step-by-step through your body, much like you did for the relaxation. See, feel, or imagine the love as any comforting sensation that comes to you. Maybe it is light, or a thrilling sound, or it is a feeling of warmth or softness. Just let it come to you.

Don’t judge the feeling or try to change it. Let yourself enjoy it fully and completely. Allow it to flow through you. Feel yourself flooded with love. Hug yourself. If you have difficulty with this, skip it. You can come back to it later.
Do it for as long as you need and as often as you like.

“This is alchemy. Love leads to alchemy of the soul. Change your soul and see the world transform and open to a new culture of love and hope. Let the world be love,” said my guide Moondrop.

Please note the name “Moondrop” is a simplification. He’s a Master Teacher on the spirit side and this is an interpretation of the translation of his name in Sanskrit.
“And not a dreadfully good one either,” he said. “More like Light of the Reflected Source of All.”
We agreed Moondrop would do.

Writing My Heart Song

“Open a door for someone and you will find the door of heaven opens for you.”
-Merope, one of my guides

What makes your heart sing?
Writers need to write what they are passionate about. That’s what shines through in good writing.

Anyone can learn a subject, slosh it around a bit, and then regurgitate. A place for this exists in the world. It’s not a crime, only soulless.

I’ve been going on a bit about the importance of being kind and I will be doing that again shortly. But for today, I’m going to tell you why I’m doing it.

Because it matters.

The only thing that matter is how we treat people. This was underscored over at The Flightless Writer.
Love, caring and kindness are important for the daily reason of getting along with others, but also for the earth changes.

Yes, I’m one of those.

I’m passionate about the earth changes and the unseen, undiscussed world. I care about the paranormal, the preternatural, the preterhuman.
I want to learn about, write about, and experience for myself the unending world within our own subconscious minds and the power and energy inside us that we commonly chose to not use.
We have our reasons. They are individual as well as collective and they are valid. They are, however, not for me.

Ignoring the existence of what we can’t see or measure doesn’t mean it’s not there. We simply haven’t developed a receiver for it yet.
And that brings me to love warriors and the earth changes.

Changes, an ending, something big slated to happen in the world, has been in my mind since I can remember. Perhaps I overhead it or read about. Maybe it’s because we had Fate Magazine in the house and my mom talked about Edgar Cayce. It might be knowledge that I agreed to have with me as part of my pre-birth agreement. Probably all of the above.

My recent posts about love warriors are ultimately about the prophesied changes, how they affect people, and what we can do to help.
My guides have supplied much of the information. Their emphasis is love. They are correct. The information was channeled and often they were speaking as I was writing.

Call it flaky. Dismiss it if you must. Believe it or not as suits your personal comfort level. My guides have whispered to me to write about it and they have yet to steer me wrong. Writing with my guides makes my heart sing.

Love will mitigate the changes. Not stop them, but mitigate them. It will help our spiritual growth, too. What more can we ask?

“Perhaps that is the best way to describe the changes in the human condition following the upheavals,” said my guides.
“It is the coming of the final and complete true enlightenment, when humans see for themselves who they truly are in relation to the world beyond the five senses.”

We can all do our part to ensure these alterations go as smoothly as possible. The simplest way for each of us to have an impact on the world is offer kindness, consideration and compassion to everyone and everything.